Stay at home moms should get dressed for work

Stay at home moms should get dressed for work each day. It sounds weird right, dressing for the day as a stay at home mom, if I’m home running after kids, why in the world wouldn’t I want to be comfortable all day?  It’s so easy to stay in your sweats or pajamas all day when you’re just staying home, but are those days productive? Do you maximize your time and get the most out of the day?

Simply getting dressed first thing in the morning sets a mood for the whole day.

I easily fell into the stay at home mom funk of wearing sweatpants or leggings every single day. I mean, why not, right? Nobody sees me except my toddler and she doesn’t care what I look like. My husband never complains about what I wear, so it shouldn’t matter.

My hair in a top knot/ messy bun, dressed just slightly better than pajamas. I could rock the couch like a true potato. I would get down and play with E, but as for housework… it wasn’t a priority.  I would do what needed to be done; pick up toys, vacuum, dishes, but there was no drive to go beyond that.

Sure, I would list out everything I wanted to accomplish, and I would start to tackle my list, but there was no drive to go beyond the necessities. I was comfortable, I could get down and play, I could do anything I wanted, except I didn’t. I mean, sure I’d play, we would do activities, but if E wanted to play alone and there was a good movie on, I’d watch the whole thing, and maybe take a nap.

Can anyone else relate?

So what changed?

So one day, the dreaded happened… I had somewhere to be in the morning. I got up with my husband, like normal, but I immediately got dressed. I actually put jeans on in the morning! Then I did my hair & makeup.

You know what happened? Not only did I blow through my whole list that day… I did extra.

What was the difference? I was dressed for “work” since I had somewhere to be and something to do my mindset was different. I had things to accomplish, I was dressed to do work, and I was less tempted to sit on the sofa and waste time.

Putting yourself into a work mindset each day by dressing for your job will increase your productivity. Seems logical right? So why as a stay at home mom are we not dressing for our job.

I know, if you’re like me, you probably putting your kids in cute little outfits and doing their hair each and every day.  So lets put the same effort into ourselves.

My morning routine

When I get up in the morning I send my husband off to work and I immediately change my clothes.  There is no more taking my time and being leisurely, otherwise my whole day is blown because I will procrastinate until just before noon when he comes home for lunch to get ready. for the day.

I did change one thing though, I no longer put jeans on first thing. I have been trying to get more active and workout regularly, but that doesn’t happen if I’m already dressed and working on other things. So, when I get up I immediately put on workout clothes, especially the dreaded sports bra.

I might start my day cleaning or having play time, but I am dressed for working out. My boobs are being squished by the sports bra, I’m not that comfortable. So I get my workout done right away, then I can get out of the uncomfortable torture device and I can put on a regular, more comfortable bra. I get showered and ready for my day.

If it’s not a work out day, or a day I’m meeting up with a friend later in the evening, I go straight to “work” clothes.

Dressing the part

When I sit down at my desk for work, I make sure I am dressed for work. Sure, it isn’t wearing my professional clothes from pre-baby, but I make sure to be actually dressed. I might be in leggings, but if I am it’s an outfit I would leave home in for an appointment. They aren’t play clothes unless I’m doing something that would require it.

When I actually get dressed, I can get through my blogging list, do any freelance jobs I’m working on, and then tackle the housework, while juggling play time and taking care of a toddler who is potty training.  This only works though if I actually get dressed. On days I’m feeling lazy and don’t get dressed right away it shows in my productivity.

The mindset

Now, I’m sure there is times when you dress in sweats or PJ’s all day and still manage to get things done. I know occasionally dressing for ultimate comfort all day still leads to me having a productive day. Yet, getting ready for the day as if I am going to a job puts me in the mindset of working and getting things done.

When your mind is set on working, and being productive you can accomplish more.  Your list wont seem as daunting and the sofa doesn’t seem as enticing.

As I was taking a mommy time walk with one of my besties last night, who also is a stay at home mom, we discussed how getting ready in the morning changes your mindset from play to work.  She experiences the same thing.  We may have different size families, but we have recognized the same things in our productivity.

So, do you dress for work as a mom? What is your favorite way to increase you productivity?

 

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18 Comments

  1. Heather

    May 4, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    I definitely feel more “ready for the day” when I shower and get dressed but some days, it’s just so easy to roll out of bed, put the kids on the bus, go to the gym and then come home and get to work.

    1. Becky Miller

      May 5, 2017 at 10:13 am

      There are definitely days I don’t get dressed right away. Those days it shows in what I accomplish but it’s good to have those more relaxed days

  2. Stephanie

    April 26, 2017 at 6:08 am

    I agree with you. I am amazed at the number of moms who are in pajama’s when dropping off their children daily at school. No judgement here, but I have often thought and wondered “how much are they getting done in a day”

    1. Becky Miller

      April 26, 2017 at 8:43 am

      Yeah, it’s so common anymore. I just can’t sit in my pajamas or sweats all day and be productive.

  3. Amy

    April 25, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    So true, they say you need to dress for the job you want, why not the mindset. I have to put on mascara at least to feel somewhat put together. I feel so much better when I do just that and even better when I actually wear jeans. I know its hard some days, but I think I will set a goal of pulling myself together at least three times a week and work my way up 🙂 I am starting to get a little more time since my youngest is now 15 months and will play with his older brother.

    1. Becky Miller

      April 26, 2017 at 8:45 am

      Amy, that’s a great goal! I always feel better with jeans on and a bit of makeup. Doesn’t have to be fancy, but it makes me feel like more than a mom-servant lol.

  4. Jade

    April 25, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    I love this post. Totally agree, I had postpartum quiet bad and was staying in the house all the time not bothering to get dressed. taking little steps like getting dress for the day helped me so much,

    1. Becky Miller

      April 26, 2017 at 8:46 am

      Jade, it’s amazing what just changing your clothes can do for your entire outlook isn’t it.

  5. Jamie @ madrediem

    April 25, 2017 at 4:13 pm

    I’m not a SAHM, however when I was on maternity leave I noticed a huge difference in how I felt whenever I’d get dressed in something other than yoga pants and a puke covered shirt (my daughter was a puker). It out some pep in my step and I definitely accomplished more on those days. Plus I just felt better overall. Great post and I agree 100%.

    1. Becky Miller

      April 26, 2017 at 8:47 am

      Jamie, it works for days off of work too. I know on our weekends if we have a morning that we all stay in pajamas the whole day seems off and not much is accomplished.

  6. Derika

    April 25, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    So much of it is a mindset! Especially with being a WAHM to a little under one!
    I feel extra great when I have a morning protein shake, which is my coffee. But when I feel dressed up, I can accomplish anything.

    1. Becky Miller

      April 25, 2017 at 3:53 pm

      Derika, It definitely is mindset. It’s hard to get into the “time to work” mindset when you’re wearing lounging clothes. I can get through the day with sweats on, but I can do so much more when I’m really dressed.

  7. Marcie

    April 25, 2017 at 10:08 am

    This reminds me so much of when I’d get dressed up for phone interviews. I felt so much more professional and got in a great mindset.

    1. Becky Miller

      April 25, 2017 at 10:10 am

      Marcie, I heard that tip about phone interviews before. It just gets you in the right mindset to get things done and be professional when you’re dressed for the part.

  8. Heather

    April 25, 2017 at 10:05 am

    Great read! I can definately relate to this. No work gets done unless mama has a bra on lol.

    1. Becky Miller

      April 25, 2017 at 10:08 am

      HA! Yes Heather, it’s so true. It’s too easy some days to fall into the comfy trap, but Once you put the bra on it’s time to get to work. 🙂

  9. McKayla

    April 25, 2017 at 9:50 am

    I completely agree, I had postpartum pretty bad, and I honestly think making myself get ready everyday helped me get over, along with exercising, and leaving the house!

    1. Becky Miller

      April 25, 2017 at 9:53 am

      McKayla, I believe that too. I didn’t put it in this post, but I definitely dealt with postpartum which was only made worse by sitting around and not getting ready for the day ahead.

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