9 Ways to Get in More Self Care for New Moms

Congratulations on being a new mom, and welcome to this new journey.  Whether you’re pregnant or have a newborn, you’re part of the no sleep, no time to think, motherhood club. Self care for new moms is crucial to success but doesn’t come easy.  While you can read a thousand articles about motherhood and parenting,  let’s look at caring for you as you start this journey of motherhood.

When we bring a new baby into our home, whether through birth, adoption, or foster care, things are turned upside-down.  All of a sudden your needs go out the window because there is a tiny human, that you created, and they are completely helpless. They look to you for every need because they aren’t capable of caring for themselves.   The schedule, lack of sleep, and complete change it brings into your home is completely overwhelming.

Sleep when the baby sleeps, or so they say

You’ll hear tips a lot, and they’re generally revolving around “sleep when the baby sleeps” which is decent advice because you’re crazy tired, but you’re also being pulled in 30 different directions.  You have a house to care for, you have laundry to do (so much laundry), and you need to shower.  This advice isn’t all bad though.



This comes from people knowing that you need to take care of yourself. It’s hard, and you have other things you might feel compelled to do instead, but your house will not fall into shambles because you left a few dirty dishes in the sink for a few hours.  Nothing will happen if you don’t get the vacuuming done right now.  You not only need time to rest & recharge, but you need to not lose yourself in motherhood.

9 simple ways to get more self care as a new mom.

Take it from a momma who burned out

When my Little Miss was born, I poured myself into motherhood. I did everything I could do for her. I breastfed & when that wasn’t working I supplemented with formula, but still breastfed as I could.  When that started failing, I started pumping, seemingly nonstop, while continuing to supplement, because I just didn’t produce enough to feed her in a day.  I was waking up to give bottles and pumping away. I was trying to keep up with housework and have dinner cooked every day.

All of this worked for a little while, but then I hit a wall & knew I couldn’t continue the way I was going. I didn’t want to get up out of bed, I began to resent everything about pumping, and I seriously wondered where the true me had gone.  It had been so long since I had truly connected with the real me, that I didn’t know what to do that would make me feel like more than a mother.

Now, for me, and I’m not starting anything here, because I wish things would have gone differently, I stopped pumping for my daughter. It wasn’t my plan, but I had come to a point where I knew I needed to quit.  I had done the tea, cookies, etc., and nothing was improving. Little Miss was having more and more formula each week, and all the pumping was starting to affect my mental health.  So I stopped.  I cried, I hated that I gave up, but I knew, for my own mental wellbeing, I had to stop.



Once I stopped, I started to feel better, but something was still missing. I still felt like I had lost myself.

One day, during nap time, I went in the bathroom and put on makeup, for no reason, I wasn’t going anywhere, I just put it on.  Makeup has always been my happy place. It is a love of mine and I hadn’t put on makeup in months. I hadn’t touched it because I was so lost in motherhood.  That day I felt a little connection to the old me.  A light bulb went off, I had stopped doing everything I loved, the things that make me, me.

I created a plan and found that by sneaking 5 minutes where I could, that I gradually found myself again.  I can connect with who I am as a woman outside of motherhood.  As my daughter has grown, I have begun adding more and more time to my self care, but it all started with 5 minutes.

Ways to get in more self care

  1. Find your 5 minute window to do something you love. Using a journal like this one will help.
  2. Utilize your spouse, family or friend, go take a bath or long shower.
  3. Get dressed.  It’s easy to stay in pj’s and sweats, but you will feel better when you get dressed for the day.
  4. Hire someone to do a chore you hate
  5. Utilize your spouse/ significant other.  Let them have some alone time with baby while you do something for yourself.
  6. Take baby for a walk.  You most likely bought a stroller, put it to good use and get out of the house
  7. Find a moms group to join
  8. Carve out some time after the baby is asleep for something you love, even if it is watching Netflix, playing a game, or even scrolling the internet.
  9. Trust your gut! In your heart, you will know what you need to do for yourself, just give yourself the guilt-free time to do it.

Make it guilt free

Here’s the thing, as moms, even first-time moms, we feel guilty about EVERYTHING!!! If you sneeze when little one falls asleep, you feel guilty.  If you have to lay them down to pee, you feel guilty.  This guilt makes no logical sense, but you feel it regardless.



When you take your 5 minutes for yourself, do so knowing it is to make yourself a better, more productive mother.  You will feel more like yourself, more energized, and able to pour more into your baby (or babies) when you stop to take care of yourself first.  There is no need to run yourself ragged.  There is no need to feel guilty to make sure you’re doing okay.

What would you do with your first guilt-free self care break?

9 easy ways to get more self care as a new mom. As a new mom it is so important to make sure you don't neglect your own needs, figuring out a self care routine and sticking to it without guilt will help you balance all the new responsibilities. #selfcare #selfcarefornewmoms #selfcareformoms

9 Comments

  1. Shannon

    May 30, 2018 at 11:54 am

    Finding time for yourself as a new mom is not easy. This is a great post with practical suggestions. Taking 5 minutes for yourself is so important for the health of your entire family!

  2. Mamie Pack

    May 30, 2018 at 10:57 am

    As a mom of four boys, these are great ideas to start sooner than later. Especially reaching out to others is important.

    1. Becky Miller

      May 30, 2018 at 2:05 pm

      Yes, building a group of moms to surround yourself with is so important.

  3. Lynneah

    May 30, 2018 at 10:15 am

    Great tips! I lose myself frequently and have to take a step back to recharge. I find that daily walks and getting dressed BEFORE noon helps a lot! But also the days where we all stay in our pjs all day can be nice too! Gotta have the balance

    1. Becky Miller

      May 30, 2018 at 10:17 am

      It definitely is all about balance. Getting dressed before noon definitely helps productivity, but there are days we stay comfy all day and love every minute.

  4. Sandra

    May 30, 2018 at 9:00 am

    So good! Mom life can get so hectic and crazy, it is so easy to loose yourself in it all. Love these simple tips!

    1. Becky Miller

      May 30, 2018 at 10:18 am

      It is definitely easier to lose yourself in motherhood than to find yourself again. It’s hard work but worth it.

  5. Sharla Fossen

    May 30, 2018 at 8:42 am

    These are such good tips. My son is 14 now and I still remember my pregnancy and thereafter. I would definitely agree with everything in the post…excellent tips for new moms!!

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