How to Find Time for Self Care When Your Schedule Gets Crazy
Can you believe this weekend is already Memorial Day weekend?! This is mind boggling to me. It was just winter, and now here we are at the beginning of summer. Maybe being in Michigan & it taking forever to warm up has something to do with that….. lol. It never fails to amaze me how busy the summer gets, and being that busy can leave you screaming “where do I find time for self care right now?”
With me not having school age children, the beginning of summer doesn’t bring big changes to our household, but the amount of weekend activities significantly increases.
If you have school age children, the beginning of summer will bring its own challenges to your routine. Yet, through the chaos, it is still important to take a few minutes for your own well being. Our routines will change, and maybe we have to do some things with our kids instead of in solitude. The most important part is that you focus on yourself for a few minutes.
Look, it’s easy in the dead of a cold winter to hide out in the house and have a relaxing day. When it’s warm and the family is more active then there’s less time to just relax.
So what will this look like?
It’s going to be different for each of us. Your summer might be already filled up with graduation parties, birthdays, family reunions, and sports. You probably have some vacation time planned, or maybe even a few day trips.
I know my summer is quickly getting filled with parties of all kinds, camping, and lots of fun in the sun. The longer days mean more time for family outings after my husband is home from work. The plans and the more active family life means less time for me.
Summer brings a reevaluation of priorities. Family time takes up more of our time, our kids may be in sports which changes our schedule for a few weeks, and we spend less time cooped up in the house.
With kids home, we may not have that quiet nap time we depend on during the school year. We may not be home in the day to day routine on a regular basis. All of this means we need to readjust our routine and find what works in our summer normal.
Just for you
I created a schedule that you can fill out for each day of the week. This will allow you to put all of your weekly functions into each day so that you can take an easier look at what all you have going on daily.
Do I think we will manage to have a little alone time each and every day… No. I can’t even say I manage to get it in each and every day for myself. Some days are just more difficult to manage. There are days we are on the run from the time we wake up until we crash into bed each night. Those days are ones I wouldn’t change for the world, but it gets exhausting.
Go through your schedule, where can you spare a few minutes? Can the older kids help ‘watch’ their younger siblings so you can go do your makeup? Maybe you could start a family reading time, where each kid and you curls up with books and gets some relaxing reading in. What if you got together with a friend or two and took a walk after dinner a few nights a week?
Write it all down and get inspired, what will you do this summer to up your self care game?
One of the keys is to acknowledge that your needs are a priority as well. You deserve some time to connect to the woman you were before kids and do something you enjoy. This will help you be a better mom and even a better partner. I know my relationship with my husband suffers when i’m worn down and needing to connect with myself.
What should I do?
Some days my self care looks like a family walk along the river, others I’m lucky if I get an uninterrupted shower. One of my all time favorite ways to unwind is taking a walk with one of my best friends, who also is a mom. While school is in session, we can sneak in a few day time walks with the little ones in strollers, but after school is out we will be stuck with our favorite walks. The ones we take without kids.
Simply taking a walk with a bestie after dinner, or better yet, after the kids are in bed, is the ultimate way to end the night. We can talk about our day, and chat about whatever we want. There’s no pressure to come right back home (especially if the kids are asleep before we leave) and usually the husband is asleep when we get back. I crawl into bed completely relaxed and ready for a restful night sleep.
If you’re really looking for some new ideas, I wrote a list of 59 ideas just for you. Whether you’re looking for something quick and easy or something with a little more planning. This list has a great variety of ideas to choose from.
To help you out
I created a 10 page download for you to write out your schedule and find some time for yourself, as well as the list of 59 self care ideas. All you have to do is fill out the form below and you will be directed to the download.
What are you looking forward to the most this summer? How do you plan on taking some time for yourself in the midst of the chaos?