5 Reasons Every Mom Needs to Take 5
Yesterday was Mother’s Day, I hope it was a relaxing and re-energizing day for you, but lets be real, we need more than one day a year to relax and re-energize ourselves. So many mom’s are left feeling like they lost a part of themselves when they became a mom. We are left asking “How do I feel like myself again?”
The truth is, it’s not necessary to lose yourself in motherhood. You can be yourself and be a mom, it’s not all or nothing. Keeping up on the things you liked to do before becoming mom is important to your well being. You can’t continually give and give without filling yourself up.
I get it though, there is pressure to be this perfect mom, who has her kids in every activity, who is always put together, and who has it all. It is nearly impossible to be the ‘everything’ mom. The mom you see who has it all going on is probably just as worn down as you.
So why do you need to Take 5 daily?
Here are 5 reasons every mom needs to take 5.
1. You will begin to feel like yourself again
This one is obvious. When you spend the time to take care of your own needs and put yourself at the top of the list, you will feel like yourself. When I get super busy and take myself off the priority list I feel it. It’s exhausting. I’m crabby, and I just want to feel like something other than ‘mom’.
Look, I LOVE being mom. It is so rewarding. I love watching my peanut grow and learn, but I need to feel like I have another purpose. As a woman, I need to be more than just her mom; I need to be me.
2. Less Mom Guilt
I wrote about getting rid of the mom guilt before, but touched on something important in that post (which you can check out here). A friend of mine was catching some flack from people about doing things for herself like going to workout classes, running, and enjoying a day at the spa. See in their minds she wasn’t being completely selfless anymore because she was making these things a priority. I refute their claims though, and quite passionately.
The more you take time for yourself, and make yourself a priority, the better mom you can be.
Yeah, I went there (again, lol)…. You will be a better mom by taking time for yourself. When your heart is full and you feel fulfilled you can give more to your family. You will be more productive, and just be mentally in a better place.
Yes, we all want to be close to our babies, and family time can be so short, but if you’re taking 5 minutes to yourself it’s not really cutting into family time. You can squeeze 5 minutes into so many places. The more time you take for yourself, the less guilt you will feel because you will be a better mom for it. We shouldn’t feel guilt over making ourselves a priority, yet there are those people who will make you feel like your entire day and life should be devoted to your kids.
3. Your children are watching
When we make self care routine in our lives our children will notice and know that mom needs that time. When they become adults and parents they will use your example and be sure that they are taking care of their needs too. They will work with their spouse (or significant other) to give them time to fill their needs.
I don’t want my daughter to grow up seeing how exhausted her momma is because she goes nonstop. I want her to remember doing fun awesome things with mom and dad, but that mom and dad were ok going off to take care of themselves. We only have one chance to show our kids how to be an adult and I don’t want my daughter to think that her life needs to be all work and no time for herself. I want her to grow up seeing her mom and dad taking time for themselves and put that into practice in her own life.
4. The more you do it, the easier it is
When I started challenging myself to taking 5 minutes a day for myself it was a struggle some days. I had an infant and I was depressed. I longed for the day that I would feel like myself again but thought that girl was in my past. Yet, I never imagined that I would find 5 minutes in more and more places as time went along. Now I have a 2 year old and I take 5 minutes in more and more places.
As our kids grow and become more independent we can find more time to take for ourselves. If you can find 15, 20, or even 30 minutes go ahead and enjoy it. 5 minutes is a good starting point for moms to start because it isn’t much of a time commitment, but you can take whatever time you have and use it for yourself.
5. You Deserve It
Being a mom is such hard work. The hours never end, and the boss can be so demanding, especially with toddlers lol. No matter what anyone else thinks or says, you deserve to take time for yourself.
What else would you do? Wait until you have an empty nest to care for yourself? Let your frustrations and tensions build up for months before doing something you want or need?
You don’t need to make it a big production, 5 minutes a day can be such a breeze. There’s really no reason to put off taking care of your needs.
So what are your reasons for taking 5?
How would you fill in the blank?
“I need _____ to feel like myself again”