5 Minutes to be a Better Mom
Being a mom is hard, but in as little as 5 minutes you can be a better mom, wife/ partner, or family member. 5 minutes a day seems far less daunting to schedule. Would you spare 5 minutes a day to help yourself be a better you?
As moms we tend to put everyone and everything in front of ourselves. We are more tempted to get just one more load of laundry done before we even think about taking that time for our own sake.
The 5 Minute Idea
During a conversation with a dear friend we talked an how just taking a few minutes a day for ourselves made a world of difference. I found that when I took at least 5 minutes during my day for just myself, no kid interruptions (can be difficult at times I understand) I could be a better mother.
When you’re burned out and overwhelmed it’s hard to be the best mom you can be. We know this, yet we continually put our own well-being last.
To get my 5 minutes in I generally try to use nap time to my advantage. Sure, nap time is a great time for cleaning house, folding laundry, showering, or a multitude of other tasks to accomplish. Yet, I strive to use a small portion of this time on me only.
I to try not to take up all of nap time for myself but some days it happens. Some days I get swept up in self care and enjoying my time by myself that I use all that time. It’s ok when that happens though. I usually feel most refreshed then.
Naptime or any time
If I simply can’t do it at nap time, I will either take it when my husband gets home or when she goes to bed. My husband knows when I say I’m taking my 5 minutes that I’m locking the bathroom door and he can handle whatever happens in those few short minutes.
Because I keep things simple by only taking a few minutes out of the day, I can make it a daily priority. It’s so much easier to give myself those few minutes than it is to find an hour or more. Would I like an hour? Yeah, it would probably be heavenly, but it’s not an option right now. It would be harder to schedule and take more time away from my family.
That’s not to say that the longer timed things aren’t scheduled. I make them a priority still, but they aren’t my sole form of release. When I get those longer times I can focus on the fun and not on how I need to relax.
What to do for 5 minutes?
During my me-time I try and make the focus completely on me. If I’m sewing I try to make the project about me. This doesn’t always happen, because if I’m sewing or crafting it is usually for someone else, so in those cases I try and focus on myself anyway.
During my time, I try not to focus on what I need to be doing, what someone else needs, or the mess I left in the living room. I don’t think about the dishes in the sink, or the dryer buzzing. I focus on me. When my ‘tank’ is full, I can give more to my family.
Yes, all those things are important, but we are just as important. See, the dishes or the laundry, they’ll still be there, and lets face it, as soon as you think you’re done more is waiting for you. Taking care of yourself though, that doesn’t keep.
Unlike a ‘chore,’ your own well-being doesn’t wait.
We tend to wait for a girls dinner out, a hair or nail appointment, an overnight stay away from the kids, or a date night with our husband. Why should we allow ourselves to run our own mental wellness to the ground only to be recharged by an hour or two alone?
In taking 5 minutes for myself each day, I am able to keep my batteries full. I am able to go back and be a calm, relaxed mommy. I feel a lot further from the edge of insanity and I am more productive.
Your 5 minutes doesn’t have to be a big production. One of my personal favorites is simply doing my hair and makeup. I feel more like myself when I have done my makeup, and I have perfected a 5 minute routine for myself.
I have a list of 12 ways to spend time on yourself you can read here. It can be simply painting your nails, doing some yoga, or exercising. Whatever brings you joy and leaves you feeling fulfilled.
What do you like to do on mommy time?