5 Minutes to be a Better Mom

Being a mom is hard, but in as little as 5 minutes you can be a better mom, wife/ partner, or family member. 5 minutes a day seems far less daunting to schedule. Would you spare 5 minutes a day to help yourself be a better you?

As moms we tend to put everyone and everything in front of ourselves. We are more tempted to get just one more load of laundry done before we even think about taking that time for our own sake.

The 5 Minute Idea

During a conversation with a dear friend we talked an how just taking a few minutes a day for ourselves made a world of difference. I found that when I took at least 5 minutes during my day for just myself, no kid interruptions (can be difficult at times I understand) I could be a better mother.

When you’re burned out and overwhelmed it’s hard to be the best mom you can be. We know this, yet we continually put our own well-being last.

To get my 5 minutes in I generally try to use nap time to my advantage. Sure, nap time is a great time for cleaning house, folding laundry, showering, or a multitude of other tasks to accomplish. Yet, I strive to use a small portion of this time on me only.

I to try not to take up all of nap time for myself but some days it happens. Some days I get swept up in self care and enjoying my time by myself that I use all that time. It’s ok when that happens though. I usually feel most refreshed then.
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Naptime or any time

If I simply can’t do it at nap time, I will either take it when my husband gets home or when she goes to bed. My husband knows when I say I’m taking my 5 minutes that I’m locking the bathroom door and he can handle whatever happens in those few short minutes.

Because I keep things simple by only taking a few minutes out of the day, I can make it a daily priority. It’s so much easier to give myself those few minutes than it is to find an hour or more. Would I like an hour? Yeah, it would probably be heavenly, but it’s not an option right now. It would be harder to schedule and take more time away from my family.

That’s not to say that the longer timed things aren’t scheduled. I make them a priority still, but they aren’t my sole form of release. When I get those longer times I can focus on the fun and not on how I need to relax.

What to do for 5 minutes?

During my me-time I try and make the focus completely on me. If I’m sewing I try to make the project about me. This doesn’t always happen, because if I’m sewing or crafting it is usually for someone else, so in those cases I try and focus on myself anyway.

During my time, I try not to focus on what I need to be doing, what someone else needs, or the mess I left in the living room. I don’t think about the dishes in the sink, or the dryer buzzing. I focus on me. When my ‘tank’ is full, I can give more to my family.

Yes, all those things are important, but we are just as important. See, the dishes or the laundry, they’ll still be there, and lets face it, as soon as you think you’re done more is waiting for you. Taking care of yourself though, that doesn’t keep.

Unlike a ‘chore,’ your own well-being doesn’t wait.

We tend to wait for a girls dinner out, a hair or nail appointment, an overnight stay away from the kids, or a date night with our husband. Why should we allow ourselves to run our own mental wellness to the ground only to be recharged by an hour or two alone?

In taking 5 minutes for myself each day, I am able to keep my batteries full. I am able to go back and be a calm, relaxed mommy. I feel a lot further from the edge of insanity and I am more productive.

Your 5 minutes doesn’t have to be a big production. One of my personal favorites is simply doing my hair and makeup. I feel more like myself when I have done my makeup, and I have perfected a 5 minute routine for myself.

I have a list of 12 ways to spend time on yourself you can read here. It can be simply painting your nails, doing some yoga, or exercising. Whatever brings you joy and leaves you feeling fulfilled.

If you would like to, read my mommy time makeup routine or my mommy time facial for more inspiration.

What do you like to do on mommy time?

12 Comments

  1. Stephanie Lee

    March 8, 2017 at 5:17 am

    Love this idea! Good for you for being able to get your makeup done in 5 minutes. I think our partners can handle the house and kids for at least 5 minutes ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ll definitely use this and prioritize a little more me time.

    1. Becky Miller

      March 8, 2017 at 10:54 am

      I can’t say it’s any fancy makeup, it’s some cream eyeshadow, concealer, eyeliner and mascara. lol. It takes me much longer to actually do my makeup. ๐Ÿ™‚ 5-10 minutes daily can do amazing things for how you feel. I can tell when I take a day off. I’m much more irritable with my daughter. Give me 5 minutes by myself and I feel much better.

  2. Shann Eva

    March 1, 2017 at 10:33 pm

    Yes! Five minutes alone is so important. My favorite thing to do is either put on my make-up while listening to music or take a hot shower. Even if I only get a 5 minute shower, I still feel so much better.

    1. Becky Miller

      March 2, 2017 at 7:20 am

      Those are my favorites too. A 5 minute shower was barely enough time before baby, but now it’s such a great relaxation. Putting on makeup with music on is probably my number 1 choice.

  3. Kayla

    March 1, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    I love this. Just 5 minutes can be so inportant!

    1. Becky Miller

      March 1, 2017 at 10:04 pm

      I agree Kayla. Sometimes 5 minutes is all you can fit in but it can be enough to bring you back.

  4. Kelley Hays

    February 27, 2017 at 10:11 pm

    I completely agree. I have always been a person who needs alone time to myself, but I’m a mom of 5, so it’s hard. It is easier now that they are older (the youngest is 9), and they keep themselves pretty entertained. I would lose my sanity without a little me time.

    1. Becky Miller

      February 28, 2017 at 7:55 am

      I have started to consider what I will do when my daughter reaches the age that she no longer naps. That will definitely change my routine but I will continue giving myself some alone time each day. I can handle everything better when I’ve had a chance for a quick recharge.

  5. Kendra

    February 27, 2017 at 8:49 pm

    Great advice! Taking 5 minutes for yourself can be such a mood lifter! I feel better when I brush my hair and put a little make-up on too ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Becky Miller

      February 27, 2017 at 9:05 pm

      It really can. Doesn’t need to be anything fancy. Brushing my teeth in peace can be good enough some days lol. There’s something about putting on a little makeup that is my perfect way to relax.

  6. Jasmine Hewitt

    February 27, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    love this-self care is vital, and if all you have is 5 minutes-use them on yourself!

    1. Becky Miller

      February 27, 2017 at 3:48 pm

      It absolutely is. Its easy to say I don’t have time for it, and continuously put it off. If you aim for 5 minutes a day, at least you can get a little time every day.

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